When you are feeling bad, do you tend to ignore or suppress what you\u2019re experiencing?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some of us are reluctant to admit when passing through a challenging situation, out of fear that it will get worse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In reality, what happens is the contrary. Research shows that emotions get stronger when pushed aside or ignored. Psychologists call this amplification.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you are not a psychopath, you have all emotions. Be proud of it, don\u2019t deny them.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
By denying their emotions, someone is more to lock down into rigid responses to them, like being trapped by their own emotions. Act smart and show them who is in charge!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That comes to Emotional Agility, which is much more than just acceptance of emotions, but rather moving from the rigidity of denial for true resilience and thriving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At the end of the day, who is entirely free of getting stressed, hurt, or never experiences the disappointment that comes with failure? Remember: you are not alone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Name it to tame it<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
When we are open to difficult emotions, we are more able to discern the precise cause of our feelings and generate responses aligned with our values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emotions originate from a primitive and powerful part of our brain, often called the limbic system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When someone thinks that they are acting rationally by suppressing their emotions, the part of the brain activated for it is called the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for such a cognitive behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nevertheless, the limbic system is just strong enough, and the emotions are still stuck there. Yet you can trick it by simply naming how you feel in those situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you ask yourself \u2019What am I feeling?\u2019, and if the answer is \u2018I\u2019m feeling sad\u2019, the brain shifts its focus away from the limbic system to the prefrontal cortex, which also functions for emotional regulation and decision-making. And this moves someone from overthinking to actionable steps. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The important thing here is avoiding saying \u201cI am\u201d because you are not your emotions, as they are only a data source, and not getting yourself convinced that you would be the personification of that tough emochallengingor feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cWe Are Not Thinking Machines. We Are Feeling Machines That Think.\u201d (Antonio Damasio)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Furthermore, to identify what is getting you off track from your values, you can ask yourself \u201cHow am I getting in my way?\u201d, so the prefrontal cortex is activated, which likely allows you to learn from mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And this enables you to become more resilient, and ultimately thrive!<\/p>\n\n\n\n